everything is ruined.

This week on the blog, I'm thrilled to welcome an incredibly special guest -- one of my dear friends and online biz sisters: Kim Bowen Bliss. Along with being the founder of the BLISS Goddess Retreats, the BLISS Goddess Sisterhood, and the Shamelessly Me Academy, Kim is one of the warmest, most authentically connected humans that I've had the honor of encountering.

This week, I've asked her to come and share with us a moment of vulnerability and how she, as a transformational coach, yoga instructor, and energy healer, works through those moments.

Without further ado...


I’ll never forget a moment in my life when I was feeling super down on myself over my money situation and was told “you need to stop ruining everything.” 

It wasn’t said to me to hurt me, but it did... in a really big way. I knew deep down that I wasn't actually ruining everything and just needed more time to figure things out. But when your heart instantly crushes into a million pieces because of someone else’s words, you have to quickly find a way out.

I realized I could either keep on crying about it and bringing myself down or fix this shit. Nothing is ruined. That word “ruined," what does it even imply? There’s no such thing as permanence if you think about it. Markers, hair dye, it all fades eventually.

If you think about the energy around the term, it’s not positive in any way and immediately brings up feelings of shame or guilt. Those feelings alone hold us back by allowing us to believe that there’s something wrong with us or what we do. But the truth is that we all make mistakes, and if we don’t, then we’ll never make progress in moving forward in our lives.

I don’t believe you are ruined or ruin anything. You aren’t a shirt. You are a being created out of a piece of God who is truly a shining soul in a physical body capable of anything. Your human nature and ego allow you to make those mistakes that sometimes throw you off-course. But I'll let you in on a secret... really it’s all the correct course anyway.

I believe in alignment. Not only to your desires and the way you work but also the the parts of yourself that are the most spiritual. We all deserve the best . Everyone single one of us was put here to do what we were brought into this world to do. And mistakes are going to happen. We’re not going to tell children who make mistakes that they ruined their life or are ruined because of itright? Then don’t allow yourself to believe that nonsense either.

Giving up on anything because of what you currently see that’s not ideal or because you’re afraid you might ruin it are both misaligned with faith. If you learn a lesson and do something about it out of your own power, you gain confidence and trust in yourself. Those two qualities alone will get you where you want to be when you take aligned action. 

Here's the secret formula that I use to get what I want in life, especially if I have an “everything is ruined” moment…

Trust in yourself and the process.

We have to have faith to let God into the equation because it’s all working out exactly as it’s suppose to.

Be confident.

Others notice when you are and they believe in you as well.

Take aligned action. 

This is action not out of desperation or fear. It’s as much spiritual as physical and comes from within because trust and confidence are both pieces of it.

Whatever has been standing in your way because you’ve either decided in your head that it’s ruined or you might ruin it are holding you back from some serious fulfillment. There’s always a lesson in all of it. Are you going to keep crying over it or fix it with aligned action? 


Kim Bowen Bliss is a transformational coach and healer who guides women to break free from self limitations and emotional pain by embodying their inner goddess to achieve bliss. Her own life experience of childhood trauma turned to self sabotage has inspired her to empower women and girls as an empowerment coach, yoga instructor, and energy healer.

She offers transformational retreats, BLISS Goddess Sisterhood, specialized 1:1 programs, is a registered yoga instructor for over 11 years, a Reiki master, and the founder of Shamelessly Me Academy, for women who struggle from the restraints of past sexual trauma. Kim is a firm believer in sisterhood and is mom to three wonderful children living in Arizona and hoping to start a life in beautiful Costa Rica soon. 

Learn more about Kim here.

*The views expressed in this post are those of Kim Bowen Bliss and not of Kate K. McCarthy or www.katekmccarthy.com.