Yesterday afternoon, as I sat on a bench, reading The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, a glass of iced green tea by my side and the sun shining in Seattle, I stopped suddenly. Holy crap. I'm sitting in the Seattle sun on a Monday afternoon, reading a fabulous book and waiting for my handsome honey to come join me. I have a ridiculously incredible life. Of course, the book was for work -- an engaging read on building business and personal success through daily habits (I highly suggest it for anyone trying to reach a goal) -- and I had been up and conquering the day since 6am, but the gratitude was and is overwhelming. Despite the challenges, long hours, moments of doubt and occasional penny-pinching, I have the distinct honor of creating a business and a life that I love.
But it hasn't always been that way.
I've had jobs that felt like they drained a part of my soul each time I walked into the office, break-ups that shook my foundation, bouts with the personal darkness of depression and anxiety, positions that confined, and days when I wished that I could just start over. I've felt lost, limited and directionless. My guess is that you've been there, too.
Here's how I changed my life and how you, too, can create a life that you love. If you remember nothing else, remember this -- tattoo it on your forehead, if you have to! -- Life does not happen to you, you happen to life. You have the power to transform your reality.
How to create a life you love.
One. Cultivate gratitude.
The first step to creating a life that you love is to cultivate gratitude for the life that you have. This means creating a conscious habit of awareness and appreciation. Keep a notepad and a pen by your bedside and, each morning, begin your day with a recognition of what you're most grateful for -- even if it's just the ability to wake up that particular morning. Gratitude is transformational, and if you dig just a bit, you're likely to find that -- at this very moment (not after you've reached all of your goals) -- there are parts of your life that are pretty extraordinary. Take the time to recognize and appreciate them. (Suggested read: Loving What Is by Byron Katie)
Two. Determine your desires.
Once you're seated firmly in the space of gratitude, it's time to get clear on what you want and, more importantly, what you want to feel. Beyond losing weight or changing careers, finding a romantic partner or traveling to distant lands, what do you want your life to feel like? Once you get clear on how you want your life to feel, you'll more clearly be able to recognize the action steps to get you there. Want to feel empowered or radiant? Sexy or free? Centered or divinely feminine? Allow that clarity to guide your goal setting and build in habits that make you feel the way you want to feel. You might just find that those things that you thought you wanted won't get you where you want to be, whereas new possibilities suddenly reveal themselves. (Suggested read: The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte)
Three. Invest in what's important.
Psst, that means you. Invest in yourself. If you want to create a life that you love, it requires that you be an active participant in your transformation -- so give yourself the tools that you need to succeed! The investment will look completely different for all of us. For some of us, the investment will be an intentional setting aside of time for self-care, daily meditation or even an extra hour of sleep. For others, it looks like a gym membership or a monthly pass at a community yoga studio. It could be a workshop or further education, a financial advisor or coach. What investment can you make in yourself today? Take a risk on yourself and invest in your desired life. (Suggested read: Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup)
Four. Daily habits lead to success.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Rome wasn't built in a day. Do you know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. A journey is made of a thousand steps. You've heard these all before, perhaps even rolling your eyes at the cliche. But, the reason why this same lesson keeps popping up throughout history is that, believe it or not, it's true. Daily habits - small, easy, seemingly insignificant changes - result in life-changing results. It's the butterfly effect in your own life. Whether it's 15 minutes of movement a day or replacing one meal with a huge salad, reading 10 pages of a good book each evening or saving $20 per week, those small habits - when done consistently - lead to huge success. Start with one today -- and introduce another next week. It may not look like the life you desire tomorrow or the week after, but those daily habits will lead you to creating the life that you love. (Suggested reading: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson)
Five. The power of accountability.
By far, the most powerful force of change for me has been in creating an intentional community of advocates, friends and colleagues -- authentic, life-affirming individuals who support, provide accountability and help me gain continued clarity as I create a life that I deeply love. These sisters, brothers and partners have provided strength, comfort and, sometimes, the swift kick in the butt that I needed. As creatures designed for relationship, it's impossible to go it alone. You'll need friends, family, and some support structures to keep you going, inspired and on track. Who are your people? I challenge you to reach out to them in the next 24 hours -- by phone, text, email, heck - even Facebook -- and build your support team.
You'll find that it's rare that I talk much, in this space, about the services that I offer as a coach, but, the truth is, I would love to be on your support team. Through my one-on-one, personalized sessions, I have supported my clients, as both a wellness practitioner and life coach, to make those small, truly transformational changes -- helping them to lose weight, gain clarity in their lives and businesses, find forgiveness, and create true freedom for themselves. They're creating lives that they love.
I am in the motivation business -- supporting you in recognizing the barriers to success and helping you remove them, all to create a life that you love. So that you too can have that moment of realization -- I have a ridiculously incredible life.
To get started, contact me today. Let's do this thing.